Note: Parents of the children petting the dogs were in the general area, but unless you understand K9 body language you mine as well have blinders on. I am here to educate, so you don't have to bank on luck or rely on the guardian (owner) of the dog being accurate when they say their dog is "good with kids".
Many of my clients were Dog Mom's 1st. I feel honored to help Dog Mom's transition into Mom's of lill humans. Parent Empowerment Training was made with you in mind. Happy Mother's Day.
This makes me so incredibly nervous. Keep an eye on the dogs eyes! "WHALE EYE" coupled with ears back, gaze aversion, & head turn away from the baby. The dog even looks for guidance from the guardian (owner) as the dog is truly saying, "THIS IS JUST TOO MUCH FOR ME!" The dog shows his belly when the child reaches for him! This dog needs help! This interaction is NOT SAFE. This is why I continue to do what I do. Teach K9 body language and educate families on safe baby & dog interactions. What level do you think this dog will stop at to show that he's not comfortable with this baby?? A growl, a snap, a ...
I'm 1 month in. It's been 1 month since my loved Bali passed away. I've been wanting to say my thank you's for everyones support for some time now, but when I think I hear Bali, expect her to greet me when I return home, or see all the empty spots around it feels like a gut-punch, my heart rips, and then the tears come. This page is suppose to be "positive" and this post is sad, but it does show the raw-ness and importance of our loved furry family members. I didn't think that one day I would help dogs and their families beyond being a RVT, but here I am. Looking back at the very 1st photo of Bali as a pup and then looking at my current logo somehow there's a correlation between the two. Yes, the star on Bali's chest was accentuated on my logo on purpose, but seeing the red, white, and blue within the logo and then seeing her bandana as a pup (which was provided by her foster mom) really made me realize how life makes you take notice. Maybe a coincidence, maybe something more. So for all those who made heartfelt comments and for those that addressed Bali's passing as if you would a human passing away... thank you. The flowers, cards, poems, chats, and support has really helped me strive onward and it brings me peace that you all know her importance. With much love back to you all. Lovingly wagging, Jennifer of Pawsitive Transformation
Today's the day I wish I wasn't a dog trainer and dog safety educator. Today's the day I announce to the world that my dog that taught me so much, that lead me to launching Pawsitive Transformation, that stole my heart for 13 years is no longer physically by my side. Today's the day, I wish I was a poet, to be able to write the words that Bali so well deserves to be spoken of. The tags on her collar no longer jingle. The dishes no longer need filled. The chart that helped me keep track of her pills to keep her liver healthy and her body pain free is longer around. Her body covered in beautiful brindle fur no longer sits beside me. My heart is broken. Her 13 years taught me how the world needs to understand how dogs are feeling. Her appearance of boxer/pit either made people swoon over her or be scared of her. The best gift I ever gave Bali was learning when she was happy, when she was sad, when she was tolerating, or feeling anxious. With knowing her feelings, I was able to give her what she truly needed in those moments. Safety, redirection, love, a way out of a situation. I sit here paused struggling over finding the words to write, to make it good enough to acknowledge all that she did for me. Without Bali I would not have Pawsitive Transformation. Without Bali I would not have my logo. Without Bali I would not have my cartoons I've made. Without Bali I wouldn't be in the process of forever immortalizing her in my first children's book. Without Bali I would not have learned and now be so kind to dog's, in ways only dog's can understand and appreciate. Without Bali more kids would be bitten, without Bali more expectant parents would still be terrified on whether their dog and baby would get along. Without Bali I would not be able to help the fearful, anxious, and reactive dogs I do. Without Bali... I'm without Bali. The pain is tremendous. If there was one thing I could ask of anyone reading this, it's to learn how to understand what your dog and all dogs are thinking. Never mind the breed, never mind the dog that's supposedly "good with kids", never mind the family dog that allows you do anything to them. In the name of Bali and for me, learn how to tell their emotions and know how to respond to them. Bali-Star, "my incredible gift", how I love you and am so thankful for your existence. May your spirit run like the wind and my mind never forget you.
Today is my first ever blog. What what the driving force behind it? My two year old (human) son. As we played in the front yard our loved family dog, Bali, began walking slowly and then blocking us, so I politely asked her to, "Back!". A command that Bali knows to move out of the way. What I heard next was a tiny little voice that said, "Back!" What did you just say I asked my son? He repeats, "back" now wondering why I am so amazed. I smiled to myself thinking that this is one of many important reasons why I train dogs and educate families in the manner I do. With compassion. For my son to repeat an action and words like Momma did still kept him in the "safe zone" when it comes to Bali remaining happy around him. Happy dogs equals safe kids. Flashes come into my head of how this real life scenario could have all played out if I relied on intimidation, verbal abuse, or leash correction while our dog wore a choke or pinch collar. This was a very proud Momma moment. My son is safe and happy and so is our dog. Momma is happily wagging here.